Men Hurt Too! They Cry Alone. Men often grieve differently than women regarding the loss of their child due to an abortion decision. There are several reasons why. A few include: God created men differently in how they process emotion and grief, and in addition our culture has conditioned men since birth that they are to be strong and not show weakness. No where in our society is there a model that it is okay for men to grieve outwardly, regarding the loss of their child due to an abortion decision. The “church” is not even a place where men can go to find that it is okay to show weakness in their loss.

It’s time for all men who have lost a child or the chance to be a father, to come to terms with those feelings in a safe environment. Don’t be fooled by society that says you shouldn’t grieve. You may be experiencing Post Abortion Syndrome. You may have feelings such as guilt, shame and anger. You may have trouble bonding with your children, your spouse or God. You could be like many who have denied their feelings, and choose some form of addiction in order to cope and keep those feelings from surfacing. Your marriage may be suffering due to anger, which is the result of unresolved grief from a past abortion. In fact you may have never connected your current symptoms with your past involvement in an abortion. This is very common for men to present with symptoms such as a sexual addiction or anger that often have as one of their roots, a past abortion. Creating an awareness of this relationship is often the first step toward healing.

If you are a man that has lost a child due to an abortion, have yet to grieve, or are beginning to present with other symptoms as mentioned, call today.

 

 

 

 

 

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For Women

Current programs through crisis pregnancy centers, churches and counselors have only began to touch the surface of the hurt and pain women suffer after an abortion. They too face a society, and sometimes church, that denies the grief they are going through. Many experience Post Abortion Syndrome which is similar to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Those that deny the existence of the loss and symptoms often quote studies done at abortion clinics in the first several months after the abortion when women are still in the “relief stage” of the grief cycle. Post abortion symptoms may not show up for 10-20 years. Post abortive women not only suffer from guilt and shame, but regret not protecting their child in the way that God intended and created them to. In addition women also struggle with how their partner may have responded to the pregnancy, and whether they were supported or coerced. In fact, most studies show that 80% of women report they would not have had an abortion if their partner at the time would have been supportive of giving birth to the child. Men play a huge role and have a great responsibility to be the models of valuing life as God would want them to be for their family.

If you are women suffering as a result of a loss due to an abortion decision, call us today.

Individual, Premarital and Marriage Counseling in Portland, Oregon. In addition, Christian Counseling to address the difficult issues individuals, couples and families face in the 21st Century.

Note: Misty Mountain Counseling Center provides both individual and marriage counseling for both men and women affected by the loss of a child due to abortion. In addition, we work closely with local/regional crisis pregnancy centers and churches that provide recovery groups for both men and women. We often recommend both individual counseling and group support as part of an effective recovery plan.